Here’s the short story…
36 – married. good.
ttc for 27 months. bad.
They call it trying for a reason. I’ve learned the truth about making a baby is that it isn’t always candlelight and kisses. Not by a long shot. And, as we head into our first IVF cycle, I’m pretty sure the truths will keep on coming.

Hi, Thank you for leaving a comment on my post. We seem to be close together as far as scheules go and it is too our first IVF attempt. I (and probably like you) am having a very hard time with all of this. It is not easy and there are so few people who truly understand. i would like to introduce myself to you and maybe we can be invitro buddies. I am 27 married and have the story book life or atleast until all of this stuff started. We haven been trying to have a baby for 2 going on 3 years now. I was sent to a specialist in Connecticut who ended up having to do an HSG which revealed that my tubes were blocked. In december I then had to go in for a laproscopy to have them fixed or removed. Well comes to find out, they never grew from birth so I had a birth defect. Our chances of conceiving naturally was instantly squashed. We never had a chance. We did everything on the RE’s checklist to start our IVF minus the consent forms and my trial transfer. Once those are done we start hopefully february or march with the hormones and junk.
I am just waiting for my . and than I can schedule the trial transfer. i am due any day now so who knows, we may be on the same day or a week apart. I dont talk to too many people on here but I am glad to have found someone who understands and has reached out to me. I don’t know you from a hole in the wall but I would love to get to know you and maybe we can share our experience with one another. I wish you all of the best of luck and I will always have my fingers crossed for you.
-Sabrina from CT
Hey Sabrina, we are indeed in the same boat. I’m from Toronto, Canada. The IVF part is the same, but we got here a little differently. I’m 36 and my hub is older than me. We can’t seem to find a concrete reason why we’re infertile but I have had a couple of lap surgeries for endo and the test results my new clinic has done make them believe it’s back. The thing with endometriosis is they can’t get a real diagnosis unless they go in there to look around which my RE doesn’t think is necessary before our IVF. So – our mock transfer is on the 3rd – and our estimated embryo transfer date is Feb 25th. No matter how you get here, nothing about it is easy is it? I belong to a forum that I find has been absolutely life-saving these past few months. Check out ivf.ca forums. You’ll find many more women just like me on our same schedule to talk to.
My fingers are crossed for you too. I really hope we’ll both be first time lucky.
Melanie from TO
I’m starting IVF in August and was wondering how long it takes from beginning to end? I know I have to start blood work on the 2nd day of my cycle and then clomide on my 5th day so how long from that point before you start the shots and then the 2 week wait?
Hi Millie,
As far as I know, everyone is different. My shots started right after my bloodwork – lupron (a suppressant). Then about 12 days later I started stim injections too. At that point I had 3 needles a day for 12 days, then a trigger and retrieval 36 hours later. I seemed to take forever at the time but was just under 4 weeks. Hope that helps.