Comments on: How soon is too soon…

By: rosesdaughter

rosesdaughter — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:10:21 +0000

Let me know what you decide. I am still scared to clean out the room that is supposed to be the nursery, let alone think about a baby shower. Logically, I know that everything should be okay, but…………

By: Nic

Nic — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 09:11:14 +0000

I think the pregnancy shower is a good idea. You should do what is best for you though. Maybe just by having some form of celebration but not calling it a ‘baby shower’ maybe enough to calm the anxiety? If you dont want any celebration then tell people, I am sure they understand. Just make sure all of your worries (which we all understand!) does not prevent you from enjoying this pregnancy. I dont want you to look back and wish you had enjoyed it all a little more.
Sorry, conflicting arguements! At the end of the day, do what makes you happy, you and bubble are the most important thing right now

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 04:32:20 +0000

I don’t think now is too soon, however, if you don’t feel comfortable doing a total “baby shower” maybe you could compromise and doing a “Pregnancy Celebration” shower. That way you can celebrate how far you’ve come in this pregnancy and how thankful and excited you all are for it. That way everyone can still celebrate the pregnancy and the baby, but not make you feel uncomfortable about jinxing the arrival.

By: SIL

SIL — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 02:41:34 +0000

I don’t think there’s a right or wrong; these are good friends and they’ll understand your preferences. I don’t think it’s too early if you’re comfortable with it, but it’s a rather big if. People I work with wanted to do a surprise shower at 23 1/2 weeks (because someone was moving away) ; E told them I’d be really upset. They compromised and planned a mommy shower. So that morning, when I was having contractions and deciding whether to go to the hospital, E had to tell me the plan and then call them to cancel. An ambulance ride and 3 nights in the hospital later… no one (not superstitious even me) thought their planning caused it, but I just was uncomfortable with the whole thing. On the other hand, we totally weren’t ready when the babes came, and I’d be assembling lamps and ordering remaining items between nursing and pumping. I think I had my actual shower around 28 or 30 weeks, which I was comfortable with given viability stats. So figure out what’s good for you, and be honest with your friends about it, and why!